A young woman says repeated comments from her boyfriend about her health have left her anxious and upset—even though she maintains a very active lifestyle. After years of hearing that she’s “definitely going to get diabetes,” she finally reached a breaking point during a recent conversation.
The situation was shared in a Reddit discussion where the 19-year-old described the tension in detail.
A Healthy Lifestyle That Doesn’t Change His Warnings
According to the woman, she is 5’9” (177 cm), weighs about 67 kg, and exercises five days a week with a mix of cardio, weight training, and ab workouts. She also works part-time as a waitress, meaning she spends much of her day on her feet.
Her diet mostly consists of foods like salmon, chicken, tuna, eggs, and vegetables. She admits she enjoys chocolate occasionally, but says she is mindful about moderation.
Despite that, her boyfriend—who she has been dating for about three and a half years—has repeatedly told her she is likely to develop type 2 diabetes. She says the comments began when she was even younger and have continued regularly throughout their relationship.
At first the remarks confused her. Over time, they started to wear her down.
The Comment That Finally Broke Her
The moment that pushed everything over the edge happened during a conversation at his house.
Her boyfriend had been telling her about a discussion he and his mother had with his younger sister about eating too much sugar. During the conversation, he suddenly turned to her and said, “Well to be fair, you’re going to end up diabetic as well, aren’t you.”
She says she immediately burst into tears.
Instead of comforting her or apologizing, she says he became distant and cold for the rest of the night, barely speaking to her or sitting near her. The reaction made the situation even more painful because she felt like he was treating her with disgust.
Anxiety and a Doctor’s Appointment
The repeated comments have left her worried enough that she plans to schedule a doctor’s appointment to get blood tests and confirm whether she is at risk.
She says she told her boyfriend that if the results show she is healthy, he needs to stop making those remarks. His response was simply “OK,” and she says he has still not apologized for how his words affected her.
For her, the lack of empathy has been one of the most difficult parts of the situation.
What Commenters Had to Say
The story sparked strong reactions from Reddit users, many of whom argued that the issue went beyond medical misunderstandings. Several commenters pointed out that diabetes risk cannot be predicted simply by someone’s appearance or occasional food choices.
Others focused on the pattern of behavior itself.
Many readers said repeatedly warning someone about a disease—especially when it causes distress—can come across as controlling, dismissive, or emotionally harmful. Some even suggested the comments resembled “negging,” where someone repeatedly criticizes a partner to undermine their confidence.
For the young woman, the situation has left her questioning not only the health concerns but also the dynamic in her relationship.
What began as confusing remarks about diabetes has now turned into a deeper question about respect, empathy, and whether constant criticism has a place in a healthy partnership.
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